I talked at length about energy exchange in a D/s dynamic, and how important it is to get back what you put in and vice versa.
Today I’d like to address this again, but on a larger scale.
As a D/s couple, my little fae and I are a cohesive unit, we are close enough that we are on the same page 95% of the time. As such we are a reflection of one another, from actions, to words, to dress, and how we both interact with the D/s and kink community at large. There is very little, if any separation between our D/s life, and our “vanilla” selves.
So, with various things that have been happening to us lately, We as a couple have had to reevaluate some of our energy output.
As a couple in our community we have invested our energy into growing our local group, and this is going to be our primary focus, we want to put in effort and get something back…we may take time to talk, or organize, or offer to be someones safe call. All we have asked in return is a return investment back into the community we are trying to grow.
That is something I think we all need to realize. We’re not all going to get along, we’re all not going to be “besties”, hell we might not even like each other, but from now on THIS D/s couple will reciprocate what we are shown. Wasting positive energy on people who can’t or won’t return it, is toxic. Both for us, and the community we are helping to grow.
In your local community you are a sum total of who you are as a D or s type, how you are seen as a couple, and what you put into the pool of “experiences” – that includes everything from knowledge, to Well wishes and good Vibes.
Quite frankly if you can’t supply either, what the hell are you doing creating a toxic environment for others.
No one owes you anything, and justification for the way you live your dynamic isn’t worth being spiteful. The three fold rule still applies here.
Sorry for the Rant folks – it’s been a long couple of days.